Alzheimer's...Living with it

This disease is sometimes misunderstood for old age, forgetfulness and memory lapse. But this is different much more. It is considered as the most common type of dementia. The problem with this is that there is no cure. The medications given are usually to help slow down the developing of the disease. People tend to become forgetful. Usually the first symptoms you notice is the misplacing things, keys, wallets, jewelry and money. Then they start to blame others. Then as the disease progress they start to forget how to do simple tasks. They forget family members. They become easily agitated and some become violent. I noticed if they are taking medications, the symptoms are milder. They would repeatedly ask the same question so many times.After asking they would ask again. Living or taking care of someone with alzhiemers, you need the patience of a saint. It is really hard. It is better to take care of them in a hospital because you can go home.

But if the one you are taking care of is a family member, it is the hardest thing to do. You have to be with them 24/7. Sometimes it is hard to watch them deteriorate because they are family.
My heart gets heavy every time I remember my mom when she was younger. She had to take care of us alone at a young age of 51 when my dad died of an automobile accident. She was strong and did everything. Now that I have to do them. Sometimes it pains me to see her look in her wallets when she thinks it's time for market. I give her an allowance, usually the small bills. When I bring her out for shopping she would be frantic looking for money, I just tell her not to worry because her sons sent money for her to spend. I will just pay I tell her. When my daughter tells her she is going to the city to work, she would slowly go up and get a 20peso bill and give it to her, as allowance.I just my daughter to get it. sometimes my daughter would show her that she is happy to get money, it makes my mom smile, thinking she is still in charge.

The medicines my mom have taken are Donepezil (Aricept) and Memantine (Namenda). There are side effects like agitation, stomach cramps, fatigue and anxiety. But it does help slow down the process. I also give lots of anti-oxidants, Vit. C and E, omega-3 fatty acids and Vit B Complex. Whatever will help.

The biggest help is having someone to take care of her, talk to her and keep her informed. I am glad my helpers help to care for her. I am not a saint so sometimes my patience wears thin but I always think of her as my mother, the one person who took care of me and now it's my turn to care for her.